Counseling Services
Attachment-Focused Therapy for people experiencing emotional overwhelm - because insight alone isn’t enough — your nervous system needs support.
If relationships feel harder than they should — more anxious, more triggering, more overwhelming than you want — you’re not imagining it. Childhood attachment trauma needs specialized healing.
This Work Is For You If:
You feel anxious, activated, or emotionally dysregulated in relationships
You overthink, people-please, shut down, or swing between closeness and distance
Midlife transitions (hormones, loss, divorce, dating, caregiving) have intensified your reactions
You’ve “done the work” but still feel stuck in the same patterns
You want real change — not just coping strategies
Your attachment system adapted to early experiences — and now it needs attuned, skilled support to heal.
Why emotions feel stronger in midlife →
(Online • Private • Trauma-Informed)
Individual and Couples Attachment Therapy (Online)
This is one-on-one, trauma-informed therapy focused on healing the root of relationship distress — not just managing symptoms.
In Our Work Together, You’ll Learn To:
Calm emotional overwhelm and reactivity
Understand and heal anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment patterns
Build internal safety instead of relying on external validation
Stay grounded during conflict, closeness, or perceived rejection
Create secure relationships — starting with yourself
How This Is Different From Traditional Talk Therapy
Many clients come to me after saying:
“I understand my patterns — but I still can’t stop reacting.”
That’s because attachment wounds live in the nervous system and the subconscious mind, and not in your conscious awareness.
My approach integrates Attachment theory, Trauma-informed care, Nervous system regulation, and Midlife & hormonal awareness (where appropriate).
We don’t just talk about what happened. We work with how your body learned to survive — and teach it something new.
(Online • Private • Trauma-Informed)
Common Areas We Work On
Relationship anxiety & emotional dependency
Fear of abandonment or engulfment
People-pleasing, hypervigilance, shutdown
Dating in midlife
Healing childhood attachment wounds
Building secure self-trust
Relationship triggers amplified by menopause/perimenopause
If you’re unsure whether your situation “counts,” it does.
STILL NOT SURE?
Frequently Asked Questions and Concerns
What can I cxpect?
👉 Free 15-Minute Connection Call: A calm, no-pressure conversation. We clarify what you’re struggling with. You decide if this feels like the right fit
👉 Ongoing Sessions: Online, private, confidential. Emotionally attuned and structured. Focused on real-world change
Sessions can be booked hourly or by purchasing a package of twelve (12) consecutive weeks at a discounted rate. You are always in control of the pace.
Am I the right fit for Securely Loved?
We welcome clients who recognize that healing is a process of identifying core wounds from childhood and are committed to actively questioning their own beliefs. We do not accept clients looking for psycho-pharmaceutical medications or requiring a psychiatric assessment and/or treatment for mental illness.
Do you only work with clients in the United States?
We work with folks all around the world! Business hours are Eastern Standard Time (EST - New York), rates are listed/charged in $USD.
Do you provide receipts?
Yes, we can provide receipts! Services are insurable for individuals with a Health Spending or Flex/Wellness account, or are commonly claimed as a medical expense on annual tax returns.
How do gift cards work?
All gift cards are purchased online, and can be redeemed for any service, at any time (no expiration date!) Gift cards are easily redeemed online (as a payment method) when booking a session.
Should I book hourly or buy a package of 12 sessions?
That is entirely up to you! When you purchase your package of 12 sessions your selected day and time for your first session will automatically hold the following 11 weeks that same day and time. Example, if you booked for Wednesday 10 a.m., we will automatically hold the next eleven (11) Wednesday 10 a.m. timeslots for you. You have the ability to reschedule those appointments up to 48 hours before your scheduled session.
For more details or questions about counseling packages, contact: [email protected]
(Online • Private • Trauma-Informed)
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